We can partake in the “creative interchange,” that is, an appreciative understanding of the other that leads to an appreciative understanding of ourselves. This occurs in four ways:

1. An expansion of the breadth and diversity of knowledge
2. An increased ability to appreciatively understand others
3. An increased capacity to become a whole individual
4. An increased capacity to intergrate others’ uniqueness into our own

Thus, the good news is that we can know others as they really are, know their “original selves,” that is, the self before it is torn, or the untorn self. Through that, we can become more ourselves and reconnect with our own “original self.”