Comments on: Is this why we have to “mind the gap?” http://www.makingchutney.com/2006/04/27/is-this-why-we-have-to-mind-the-gap/ One part facial hair. Two parts moxy. Thu, 04 Dec 2008 21:52:50 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.5 By: chutney http://www.makingchutney.com/2006/04/27/is-this-why-we-have-to-mind-the-gap/#comment-3225 chutney Fri, 28 Apr 2006 15:05:18 +0000 http://www.makingchutney.com/2006/04/27/is-this-why-we-have-to-mind-the-gap/#comment-3225 It seems all the stories of Unitarian lock-ins with pornos come from the 80's. I certainly haven't seen or heard of anything like that during my six years as a UU. <em>It’s interesting to see this on your blog, Chutney, since this person’s complaint is the liberal mirror image of your struggle with the darker side of your own fundamentalist upbringing.</em> Too true, Kevin. Too true. It seems all the stories of Unitarian lock-ins with pornos come from the 80’s. I certainly haven’t seen or heard of anything like that during my six years as a UU.

It’s interesting to see this on your blog, Chutney, since this person’s complaint is the liberal mirror image of your struggle with the darker side of your own fundamentalist upbringing.

Too true, Kevin. Too true.

]]> By: Kevin M http://www.makingchutney.com/2006/04/27/is-this-why-we-have-to-mind-the-gap/#comment-3224 Kevin M Fri, 28 Apr 2006 13:57:00 +0000 http://www.makingchutney.com/2006/04/27/is-this-why-we-have-to-mind-the-gap/#comment-3224 I don't hear the "my UU upbringing was way too permissive" refrain very often, but it does come up from time to time. It's true that we're hesitant to judge one another and that our "agree to disagree" philosophy makes it hard to hammer out a consensus on things like boundaries and appropriate behavior around children. That said, I think the problem was worse in the past, at least to judge from our youth programs. Ever since LRY fell apart in the late '70s and early '80s because, in part, of the perception that it had become too hedonistic and unsafe, appropriate boundaries have been a big focus of UU youth programming. Still, this kind of thing happens. We're pretty good at discussing these things openly and addressing them, but given who we are I think they'll always be an issue for us. It's interesting to see this on your blog, Chutney, since this person's complaint is the liberal mirror image of your struggle with the darker side of your own fundamentalist upbringing. I don’t hear the “my UU upbringing was way too permissive” refrain very often, but it does come up from time to time. It’s true that we’re hesitant to judge one another and that our “agree to disagree” philosophy makes it hard to hammer out a consensus on things like boundaries and appropriate behavior around children.

That said, I think the problem was worse in the past, at least to judge from our youth programs. Ever since LRY fell apart in the late ’70s and early ’80s because, in part, of the perception that it had become too hedonistic and unsafe, appropriate boundaries have been a big focus of UU youth programming.

Still, this kind of thing happens. We’re pretty good at discussing these things openly and addressing them, but given who we are I think they’ll always be an issue for us. It’s interesting to see this on your blog, Chutney, since this person’s complaint is the liberal mirror image of your struggle with the darker side of your own fundamentalist upbringing.

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